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Unspoken Loneliness đź«€

August 5, 2025 /

Have you ever just felt so alone? It really gets to you, it feels like you can’t open up to anyone in a way that makes you seem vulnerable. Maybe it’s something others don’t understand or just not interested in.

Why is it that men in general are the ones that feel the loneliest without being open to talk about how they feel? Do we think this can be a looked in as a weakness? Do we feel that judgment could come and we don’t want to see vulnerable or “weak”? Maybe it’s the amount of expectations others have of us or simply those expectations we place on ourselves.

The truth is even in family you feel that way, it’s not about love or anything like that, but it’s the fear of bringing up feelings where the other simply just doesn’t understand or simply the fear it could cause with being looked down on.

I’ve always been a positive person, have a positive mindset and have navigated the worst downs of my life alone, maybe that’s why these feelings come and go but never really make much of an impact because I think I’m mentally strong to manage any adversity that has come my way or just mental tough to shrug it off and keep moving on.

Probably not the healthiest way of dealing with an issue but for me it works, I guess the only thing I miss is being able to talk to someone in full trust that they would listen and not judge, that they could relate and give insightful feedback on personal experience or simply just being open and vulnerable to share their side.

I also guess it’s a problem when you are in leadership, it gets very lonely at the top. You spend hours a day with a group of people that you are meant to lead, manage, develop, inspire and bring together for a common vision. At the same time you have to separate yourself from them and not get to know them in a very personal level and keep a professional at all times.

So you are at work 10-12 hours a day go home and you don’t want to talk about it because you don’t want to add stress to others how do you deal with this aspect of life? I guess trying to find some comfort in self that you are doing the best you can despite all being thrown your way and still manage to put up a smile whenever it’s required.

I know not my best, but we will rise and all orders will be back in place.

Employees Exit Due To Leadership👩‍💻

July 30, 2025 /

It’s past midnight and as you do, non stop scrolling on social feeds or TikTok until that sweet sense of sleep hits. For me, the past hour or so I’ve seen at least 3-4 videos on leadership and how employees don’t leave companies but leave bad leaders. It got me to thinking what a load of crap! So now I can’t sleep and I’m going to rant about my thoughts for a bit before snoozing off.

So technically, I don’t disagree that bad leadership is a big cause for resignation, but there are many others and blaming leaders at every opportunity is just a fully misled argument.

People leave for opportunities, to explore, to try life at something else and for growth. If you are after career profession or more money leaving a company is one of the easiest ways for a bigger role, a bigger company, a more “luxurious” company or simply for a bigger paycheck.

Now you may say well that falls on leadership for not increasing wages or promoting or putting a plan fin place for “transfers” but it’s not always at the leaders foot.

Positions are limited in every organization so promotions can’t just happen all the time especially when those positions are filled, transfers? Too many parties involved and different salaries across the board that are hard to reach and plenty of owners or big shot leaders who want to decrease payroll as opposed to value team members. So moving from a large organization to a smaller or one that makes less revenue well you guessed it right lower salaries budgets.

I’ve always believed in honesty when people leave the organization, I ask their motif and their thinking for the new role challenge, many times I fully agree with them, it’s an incredible opportunity for them, an amazing company, a great position and sometimes a salary that I couldn’t match.

For others I’ve given honest feedback as to why I didn’t think the move would be correct due to a number of reasons I’ve found but I’ve always been honest and never taken a resignation personally.

After my talks with them, many have also retracted in their resignation but genuine care for you team is about being honest, not political, not dismissive or manipulative.

With many I’ve remained in contact with over the years, and many thriving and others who have come back to the organization or made them realize what they wanted to do.

All in all, turnover is common and you have to learn to embrace that people will leave and how you treat them during that moment of resignation sticks with them forever, so instead of getting angry, frustrated or thinking how much a replacement is going to cost you treat them with respect, be honest, share your opinions and most importantly treat them as human beings not just a number.

Rant done! Good night!

The One Thing That Keeps Me Grounded🌅

July 30, 2025 / / 0 Comments

No matter how loud life gets — no matter the stress, deadlines, drama, or the self-doubt that creeps in during a tough day — there’s one force that always pulls me back to myself: family.

I could be navigating the trickiest situations at work — the kind that leave you second-guessing everything or wondering why you even started in the first place — but the moment I’m around the people I love, the static clears. The pressure softens. The world realigns. It’s like someone wipes the fog off the mirror and suddenly, I remember exactly who I am and why I keep going.

It’s funny, isn’t it? We chase so many things in life. Goals. Recognition. Stability. Yet in the end, the thing that gives it all meaning is right there — at the dinner table, in a late-night phone call, in a quiet moment of connection that doesn’t need words. My family is my compass. They don’t just support me; they remind me of what truly matters when the noise outside tries to convince me otherwise.

There’s a kind of peace that only they can give — not because everything is perfect, but because everything is honest. Real. Grounded. They see me on the good days, the bad days, and the absolutely chaotic ones — and love me through all of it.

I don’t take it for granted. In fact, the older I get and the more I experience, the more I realize that this clarity, this anchor, is rare. And I count myself incredibly lucky.

So when things feel like too much, I return to what I know:
Love first. Family always. Everything else will figure itself out.

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